DEAR ABBY: My grandson’s friend’s father, “Jake,” and I have been friends for many years. There was an incident in which his son came over to hang out with my grandson. They are both 11. I had previously made plans to go somewhere, so I left the boys with my son and his wife, my grandson’s uncle and aunt.

Jake became very upset and told me it was unacceptable that I left his son with my family. I had talked to Jake’s ex-wife, with whom I’m close, and told her I was going to leave her son with my son. She said it was OK.

The other day, Jake and I were at an event together. I left before having to speak with him. He sent me a text the next day saying, “Let’s get past this so we can be cordial.” I was hurt that he made such a big deal out of it. His son is now going into middle school. Was I wrong? — HURT IN SOUTH CAROLINA

DEAR HURT: I fail to understand why Jake felt your presence was required when he dropped off his son. Clearly, he knows he overreacted and is now trying to make peace. Because the boys are close, I think you should accept the olive branch and move on. There is nothing to be gained by extending this unfortunate incident further.

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